most women look forward to tying the knot. i am a little different. i am absolutely terrified. i did not grow up dreaming of weddings, gowns, cakes, dances and i do's. i was too much of a tomboy and a radical to demean myself with girlish musings. all i wanted was to write and surf the world!
now that i am at the threshold of married life, i find myself imaging what my wedding should be. there is of course the pressure from society to have the "dream wedding". the problem is i don't have a dream wedding that society would consider acceptable. why is that a problem? it is because society would judge the success of your marriage based on the way you organize your wedding. yeah, it doesn't necessarily follow. i know that in my head and most sane people would agree. but ever since i have been talking about my wedding and i tell people i dont have this and i dont have that, you can read the disappointment in their faces and the accusation that i am not normal really shows. haha!
it must be a blessing that i was born with a healthy contempt for the "usual". ever since i was a kid, i have always been accused of being weird and the oldies tend to ignore me for this. haha! i understand now. we ignore what we do not understand.
so these are the "usual" stuff you probably wont see at my wedding.
an entourage except for what the church requires. i guess we'll have a best man and a maid of honor and the sponsors and godparents.
a motiff. i dont want to burden people with a specific color.
doves and cakes. i just do not see the point.
reception program. this is a must-not! we want people to just take a hearty, healthy dinner, listen to some good music live, view some pictures, and leave.
bridal car. a van could take all of us to church.
lechon. okay, this is a laugh. but i want to make an exception for charlie. its his wedding too. but he relented a bit and said its ok as long as he can't see it. hahaha!
formal pictorials and videos. this is so ugh. camera's do not lie. and i dont want a photoshop-ed wedding.
garter and boquet fiasco. this is such a circus.
gimmicks.so what will the wedding probably have?
lots of good musiclots of flowersan intimate and solemn ceremonywe are getting married on the day of equinox, the day of balance--MARCH 21. :)